Nangona kunjalo, ezininzi abafazi ukwazi ukwenza intlanganiso kodwa andazi njani ukuba azibandakanye umntu kwaye ke ngoko ukufumana kwabo ngendlela imeko ukuba akunjalo ngathi. Xa umntu ekude kwaye abo akuthethi ukuba ufuna a ezinzima budlelwane kwangena ubomi benu, awuyazi njani umthetho wama-ingakumbi xa kufuneka nemvakalelo. Ufuna tyhala kokuba bathethe, ufuna a ezimbalwa ezinzima, kodwa akekho kuhlangana yakho okulindelweyo kwaye uqhubekeka hayi necessarily imali.
Athimba umntu kwaye yenza umntu ngothando. Ukufumana ngaphandle celibacy ngokupheleleyo, kodwa xa yena akuthethi ukuba ufuna a ezinzima budlelwane akuyomfuneko ukuba tyhala kuye kodwa kungcono kuba ayinikezeleki kuba precisely tshintsho
