Ndicela a Guy Apho Kuhlangana Abantu abalungileyo, kwaye Le Into Yathi - Inene

Kulungile, xa sisonke bobabini ekunene

Andisoze ungalibali njani annoyed mna osetyenziselwa kuba xa wam oldest udade ingaba tyhala kum ngaphandle ucango kwi mgqibelo busuku, urging kum, betha, i ibar ngenxa ndinga zange kuhlangana wam elizayo indoda yakhe, amehlo Isithai ukutya ekhaya kunye wam girlfriendsNceda, ndamxelela, andinguye ke kuhlangana a mnandi guy kwi Enew York City bar. Andiyenzanga kuhlangana umyeni wam e a bar, kodwa lowo akusebenzi khange wam wobulali Isithai ukutya kweenkonzo umntu noba. Nangona wam insistence ukuba kukho akusebenzi khange, nkqu emva ngoko ndandisazi okulungileyo guys isixeko abo ndaya bar ukuba kuba basele kwaye kuhlangana abafazi.

Ngoko ke, i-real umbuzo: xa bengaphandle apho, njani kufumana okulungileyo okkt.

Ukuze sincede kufumana elusive"okulungileyo guy,"ndicela Inene gentleman Uisake Huss ukuba asiphe ezimbalwa amacebiso anikwe kweli nqaku ukusuka indoda imbono. Seeveki notable okukodwa, kukho ngenene aren ukuba nawuphi na umyalelo iindawo kuhlangana abantu abalungileyo. Eneneni, abanye kakhulu (seemingly) innocuous iindawo bamele kanjalo eyona iindawo: grocery store, ikofu-shop, ithala leencwadi, ufuna igama. I-real ifomula kuba impumelelo. Fumana a guy ungathanda, yenza iliso uqhagamshelane, ncuma, kwaye, mhlawumbi okubaluleke kakhulu, iilayini ngohlobo lokokuba wamema a incoko (awuyazi mangaphi amaxesha mna anayithathela kwafuneka sprint emva kokuba kubekho inkqubela ngenxa wayengomnye booking oko kuye car). Ndiyazi, ndiyazi, izandi cliché, kwaye ungafuna hayi nkqu kuba unqulo kuba bonke ndiyazi, kodwa ke hayi sesishumi.

Okwesibini, hlala kwi bar ukuba ukhe ubene nako

Zokunqula kwaye kuba efanayo izizathu, weddings ziindleko ezinkulu ndawo ukuya kuhlangana abantu ezimbini engundoqo izizathu.

Kuqala, ngalo ibandla, kakhulu njenge at weddings, sirhangqwe abanye abantu abakufutshane sele watshata kunye abantwana, kwaye lenza kuthi ufuna ukuyeka ekubeni ngoko ke omnye.

Kangangoko sibe bonwabele perks ka-bachelorhood, xa a guy uyaya endaweni yakhe zokunqula bonke ngo ngokwakhe, reminds kuye kangakanani yena ungathanda ukuba ingaba kukho umntu ngaphandle kwakhe kwaye uza kufumana yakhe ingqalelo ukuba ngaba kukho kwi eyakho kakhulu. Ngoko ke, ewe wena ngcono kukholelwa mna isaziso wonke umfazi phantsi amane ngaloo ibandla yi-isiphelo intshumayelo, kwaye ndiza hayi omnye kuphela. Zama ehleli endaweni ethile ibonakala apho kukho ezinye indawo kuba enye guy ukuba nihlale elandelayo okanye kufutshane kuwe. Eneneni, ndiyazi abasetyhini abathe nkqu made it a umthetho ukuba nihlale elandelayo lokuqala omnye guy babe bona, kwaye andikho kidding, uza kwenza ukuba guy ngu mhla. Kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba nje isicelo amabandla: zama ke kwi inqwelo moya, ibhasi, amathala eencwadi, restaurants kunye communal uluhlu lophinda-phindo, okanye concerts kakhulu. Okwesibini, kukho into malunga amabandla kwaye wedding ucinga apho nkqu uzalise bolunye uhlanga kuba uluvo familiarity ukuba kwabo. Umzekelo, ngexesha wedding uyayazi nabani na ke ngomhla wedding kufuneka bazi bride kwaye okanye groom ukuba abanye kangakanani kwaye ngalo ibandla uyayazi lo mntu yinxalenye zoluntu kunye apho ufuna ukwabelana ngokufanayo beliefs. Oku kuthetha ukuba umfazi uza kusenokwenzeka ukuba bona guy njengoko ngakumbi abantu abaqhelekileyo, kwaye ukuba ngokwenene ngenene ngokuphonononga kuthi ukuba kufuneka kokuthenjwa approaching yakhe. Kukholelwa kum, sibe zonke kakhulu abantu abaqhelekileyo kunye yingqele shoulder ukuba abafazi nika ngaphandle xa sukuba. ke approached yi-a stranger, kwaye ukuba unako nefuthe zethu ukukuthakazelela ukuba indlela nkqu ukuba babe. zinika kuthi imiqondiso. Ngenxa abantu abaqhelekileyo territory, ukuba uza, kuluncedo kulo mba. Mna ngenene zithanda umdaniso. Ngamanye amaxesha ndiye andinaku nkqu uncedo ngokwam, kungakhathaliseki apho ndikhona. Kodwa kwimeko kuwe weren khange aware, abaninzi guys andinaku okanye uphumelele khange umdaniso. Kwaye ngoko ke, uninzi guys ufuna ukufumana e a dark, nelikhwazayo, kwaye wild nightclub kukho kuba ubukele kwaye okanye grinding kwi abafazi, nokuba bathe na inzala kwi ubudlelwane kunye nabo okanye hayi. Ingxaki ayikho ukuba kukho andizange na decent guys e ezi iindawo, ke, ukuba kukho hayi indlela ukwazi. Alikwazi ukwahlula ngathi unako ngokuqinisekileyo kuba incoko, emva zonke. Ukuba ufaka hoping ukuhlangabezana a gentleman kwi ngolwesihlanu ebusuku, ukuqina amagumbi, nelikhwazayo umculo, kwaye zonke-kakhulu-rhoqo inyama kwimakethi vibe a nightclub ayi ke kukunika esihle kakhulu odds.

Endaweni yoko, ukuba ufuna umdaniso kwaye kuhlangana guys ngubani ngokwenene ufuna ukuthetha nawe, vumela kum phakamisa ufuna ukufumana i-bar ukuba umsebenzisi kuphila umculo.

Phantsi kwentlawulo ngokuphonononga ukugcina uninzi weirdos ngaphandle, umculo ngokuqhelekileyo kuqala ngaphambi koko ebusuku, umbane kwaye isandi amanqanaba ingaba ngokuqhelekileyo ngakumbi conducive ngokwenene ukubona kwaye kokuva nabanye abantu. Uninzi kuthi ukuchitha elungileyo bit ixesha kwaye imali ngaphandle ngexesha iinkwenkwezi socializing kwaye hoping ukuhlangabezana umntu othile. Kodwa ixesha ubuya sele kuba bechitha ngaphandle ngexesha ndonwabe ilixa neqabane lakho girlfriend kusenokuba ezingaphezulu productive ukuba ufaka kancinci ngakumbi intentional malunga yengingqi yakho watering umngxuma. Kuqala, nkqu ukuba ukhe ubene hayi picky uhlobo, fumana indawo ukuba ubeka ixesha, yacinga, nomzamo kwi zabo ukusekwa ngoba apho uza ngokuqhelekileyo fumana thoughtful, nzima-isebenza abantu ngubani ixabiso ixesha labo. I-bar ngu ngokuqinisekileyo, incopho ka kwisithuba igumbi, kodwa ngakumbi okubalulekileyo kukuba, ke, kokukhona approachable kunokuba oyedwa itheyibhile. Nkqu boldest babantu baya uphumle phambi approaching umfazi seated e itheyibhile iqondo ubunzima ngu steep, kwaye kwezo meko kuba ukungaphumeleli lingekho i itshati. A gentleman ingaba zange presume ukuba nihlale kuzo i-vula isitulo e a elonyuliweyo ke, itheyibhile, ngoko ke lowo ke, ekhohlo ukuya noba i wesalathisi phezu kwayo (kwaye abahlobo bakhe) okanye crouch phantsi emhlabeni. Trust kum, ke i-ordeal. Kodwa ukuba ukhe ubene kwi bar. Umntu uphumelele ukuba kufuneka traverse i-dining candelo, kufuneka ukuba sele e iliso-inqanaba, kwaye kukho needn khange kube nayiphi na ukuvula iintliziyo ukuba kuba yendalo incoko. Kwaye ukuba ufuna mema umntu ukuba indlela kuwe.

Vula phezulu yakho posture kancinci ukuba wamkelekile a incoko.

Ekugqibeleni, ukuba ukhe ubene rhoqo kwenye indawo, kwakha a rapport kunye bartender, kwaye umxelele okanye yakhe nisolko ukujonga kuhlangana umntu kodwa hayi nje nabani na. I-guys kwaye gals ngasemva bar khangela zonke kwaye ingaba i-engalindelekanga imvelaphi intel kwi enokwenzeka suitors. Baya uzaku kwazi ukuba incopho kuwe ngendlela ilungelo icala, kwaye nkqu uncedo steer kude okkt abo musa ukungena inkcazelo.