Imithetho kuba Dating Xa Ufuna a Ezinzima Budlelwane HuffPost

Musa kuzigwagwisa okanye kuba mna-deprecating

ngo Sonya Rhodes, PhD kwaye Susan Schneider, coauthors"I-Alpha Umfazi Meets Yakhe Yomdlalo: Njani Olomeleleyo Nabafazi Banako Ukufumana Uthando kwakunye Novuyo Ngaphandle Settling."Kwezinye iindlela, i-intanethi dating kunye namaqonga oonondaba bathe leveled i-ukudlala intsimi: Abafazi banokuthatha kwentlawulo zabo dating kwaye ngesondo ubomi ngeendlela baya akhange na ngaphambiliSinako ukusungula imihla okanye iqela hangouts nje ngokulula njengoko abantu besenza. I-dating ihlabathi revolves jikelele ukwenza ilungelo proactive nemigaqo yokusebenzisa imichiza kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba ukuba uzilungiselele kuba monogamous budlelwane, kufuneka ube gca malunga yakho iinjongo, kunye ngokwakho, kwaye udibanisa ababonisi base partners.

Kufuneka abe ngumgwebi oyintloko

Ingxowa-a iqabane lakho yi-project kwaye kufuna ixesha umbane. Ukuba ngubani ofuna ngu elide budlelwane, indlela nge yakho iinjongo engqondweni.

Ilungelo mindset ngu iqhosha: Ukuqalisa ngaphandle xa usazi ukuba uphelelwe kwi-ulawulo inkqubo.

Ukuba ukhe ubene ujonge kwi-intanethi, ingaba inkangeleko yakho kunye umhlobo oku kuya kukunceda khanyisa phezulu. Kuba funny, elifutshane concise, kwaye musa isandi kakhulu cutesy.

I photo ukuba ubonisa ukuphakanyiswa umleqa yenzala ilungileyo ngenxa yokuba kunikezwa ulwazi ngaphandle ekubeni wordy.

Yovavanyo profiles selectively. Chonga ngaphandle ezintathu okanye ezine guys kwaye uphawu lwakho inzala. Xa uqhagamshelane umntu, jonga i-iinketho ngokubanzi wathi yena wenza kwi-inkangeleko yabo. Ukuba umntu ibonisa yenzala kwi-inkangeleko yakho, khumbula ukuba uphelelwe hayi obligated ukuba ukuphendula ngaphandle kokuba ufuna. Kunye eziliqela prospects, qala i-imeyili apha: exchange. Kodwa umda name ukuba akukho ngaphezu ezimbini okanye ezintathu phambi suggesting a ubuso ubuso ntlanganiso. Nabani na ufuna kumandisela emailing ayikho anomdla a budlelwane. Wathi yena i likes anonymity ye-imeyili flirting. Uphephe lo mntu lowo basenokuba watshata, olunye ulwalamano okanye nje ngamandla. Hlenga-hlengisa i-ikofu okanye usele e a convenient indawo. Thetha malunga izinto ungathanda ukuba wenze, yakho umsebenzi, ekholejini stories okanye nje amava. (Mazibe ixesha ebonisa phezulu ngu ubuncinane amashumi amahlanu impumelelo.). Unakekele nokuba kukho okulungileyo ungqinelwano kwi-incoko.

Ingaba yena zilawula.

Ingaba ufuna ukufumana ngokufanayo umdla? Uphephe uthetha malunga yakho okanye yakhe iingxaki. Musa ukunika iingcebiso nkqu ukuba ukho begging kuba le yimeko embi indlela qala. Ngomhla wokuqala imihla, qinisekisa ukuba unazo ezinye izicwangciso emva koko kwaye zigcine, nokuba njani izinto zinako ke. Ukuba ukhe ubene underwhelmed nolu umntu, uya kufumana okulungileyo yokuphepha route. Ukuba ufaka ekubeni elikhulu ixesha kwaye musa ufuna ukushiya, intonga yakho yangaphambili sicwangciso. Ukuba ufaka anomdla, ndithi ngoko ke explicitly phezu eshiya. (Oku kunokuba isandi kakhulu phambili, kodwa kukho nto ezingachanekanga malunga ekubeni cacisa.). Kunikela ukwahlula khangela. Nowadays, omnye, ekholejini-educated abafazi ngaphantsi kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu ingaba rhoqo usenza ngaphezulu imali kunokuba abantu, ngoko ke musa kuma kwi-eyodwa ilinde kuye ukuhlawula. Linda ukubona ukuba lowo initiates i-imeyili okanye umbhalo. Ukuba lowo akuthethi ukuba, umnqamlezo kuye ngaphandle kuluhlu lwakho. Lowo ngu-hayi anomdla okanye ezikhoyo. Ukuba lowo email okanye okubhaliweyo (okanye yenza isithuba iinzame ukwenza umnxeba.), ukuphendula, kodwa yiya ihamba kunye phakamisa intlanganiso kwakhona. Oku kufuneka ukuba ibe real umhla kunye vertical, ixesha nendawo. Ukuba lowo ufuna ukuba uyigcine spontaneous, kunye into efana"masizame kuba ulwesibini,"musa bother putting ngayo kwi ikhalenda yakho. Ngu-hayi kusenokwenzeka ukuba kunokwenzeka. Emva kokuba anayithathela kuhlangatyezwana nazo, lilumkeleni wagqitywa ukuba safika odd phinda-phinda kwaye banobuhlobo kodwa unaccompanied yijaji lonikezelo ka-umhla. Ezi zezinye ubuxoki positives ngenxa yokuba phakamisa ngakumbi intimacy kunokuba yindlela lokwenene. Musa kuthathwa kuzo. Uninzi kusenokwenzeka ukuba, lowo ke okruqukileyo kwaye nje ukudlala kunye ifowuni yakhe. Phendula kuphela ukuba ngaba ndambona kwi umntu ezingama-iveki yokugqibela. Postscript: Ukuba uqala ukubona umntu kwi ndonwabe rhoqo qho ngonyaka (ubuncinane kanye ngeveki), baqonde ukuba ufuna kuphela ekuqaleni a budlelwane. Get ukwazi kwakhe.

Khangela nokuba uya kuhambelana, reliable kwaye respectful.

Ukuba ufaka iyalalaprocess status exclusively naye kwaye ngabo ekuqaleni ukuthatha kuye seriously, cingisisa ngokuxoxa nokuba ngaba ukho anomdla ekubeni a monogamous budlelwane. Ukuba lowo balks, qala phezu. Isibini kuni musa share efanayo njongo.